“Judge not, that you be not judged.(2)For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.
(3)Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
(4)Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?(5)You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
(6)“Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.
(7)“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.
(8)For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. (9)Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone?
(10)Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent?
(11)If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!
(12)“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.
Other people are seldom as much our problem as we seem to think. In trying to fix our lives we are tempted to start by correcting others by finding small faults they should change or by giving them unsolicited advice. Fixing others, negatively or positively, is not our hope. Asking is.
Asking is what ‘persons’ do in relation to other persons. They make a request in a way that acknowledges the person is a spirit; they have a will. They can choose to honor the request or not. Taking responsibility for our own lives by asking the right questions to the right persons is our hope. Jesus says it works even among evil people, how much more when we are asking God. Then we will know how to relate to others; as persons.
Ask God – make a request
Seek – follow through with expectation of receiving a response
Knock – persist in going back to God with what you observe from seeking and restate the request until there is an answer (yes/no/other).
Our biggest relational need is to grow in the wisdom of how to ask and be asked. We need our asking to begin with and flow from asking our unseen creator. This is what the Law/Prophets (Old Testament) tried to teach us. It’s not too late to learn.